And now it’s November.
Last year at this time we were all so agitated and so hopeful, sure that we were just over a week away from banishing the sentient yam and his stooges forever. But everything fell apart and now our country and the world looks very different than we imagined it could.
A lot of us have lost relationships we thought were important to us. Most of us have lost illusions of safety and kindness. We’re afraid for the kids in our lives. It feels isolating and alone.
This is trauma, and it’s probably going to flare in the next few weeks. The election itself and the weeks afterward were so traumatizing for so many of us and that trauma is stored in our bodies. Give yourself a break, don’t expect too much, and stay connected to other people.
If you haven’t been doing it already, now is the time to start meditating. Meditation is one of the serious treatments for trauma, and you should try it every day for a few weeks to see if it helps you. I personally like guided meditations because it makes me feel connected to someone else’s voice and because I wander off or fall asleep without the guiding voice.
Since I like them, I thought maybe you’d like them, so I made you one. It’s a little under ten minutes long, and you can listen to it here or download it by clicking and then saving onto your phone or computer.
We can make it through this month (and all subsequent months) together.
If you get stressed and anxious about the long holiday juggernaut in November and December, sign up for my Coffee and Eggnog Holiday Survival Guide. I’ll lead you through making the necessary decisions about approaching the holidays and cultural expectations to make a Holiday Survival Plan so you can just glide through the season following your plan without all the pressure and worry.